At my college graduation ceremony in 1985:
"Amazing she's been so successful and even graduated from college, you know the way she eats & all."
I cried when I first found the PEA website. There are actually others
like me. Then I met you through the website...again the tears. You are
a wonderful spokeperson for us. Keep at it and good luck. Someday I
really hope others (non-PE's) will understand that we didn't choose to
be this way.
Good to hear from you Marla and I had totally forgotten about your eating thing…..
I liked reading your stories and will go look for the magazine….. we love you just the way you are. It’s very interesting and it’s a great message of overcoming life’s challenges.
You are one of the most fun to be with, good humored, energetic women I know!!!!
There is only one “BOOM BOOM!!!”
Continued love and blessings to you
-Paul and Mary Butler
I'm in the same boat as you! I'm 22 years old and eat mainly pasta, bread, potato chips & french fries. It's nice to see an article about this condition from the point of view of the subject and not written as an interview. I do hope there's help for us someday, because people think adult picky eating is non-existant. - Amber Nobles
This is my son! Starting at the age of one when I was weaning him and transitioning him from baby food to table food we hit a major wall. He would ONLY eat crunchy foods with any other textures either being refuse or making him gag. He is now 8 and after outpatient feeding tx and a lot of trial and error, my huband and I have just learned to take new food introductions slow with him and to build one new food into another. He is still far from being a"normal eater" but we hope to continue to make strides with him. No one understands though. Everyone thinks we are just giving into him, blah, blah, blah. This is something entirely different than a phase.
-Sara Randall Tostenson
LHJ did not do their research on this woman. This woman is lying about her eating habits. She would not have had a healthy baby eating this way. A pregnant mother has to have foods containing Folic acid for the fetus to develop a healthy brain. Don't publish such garbage! :( :(
Finally, my 18 year old daughter is not alone.
-Jennifer Durst Manno
I swear this is my son to a T. Thank you for this article and everyone who looks at me with a judgemental eye when I don't force my son to eat "what everyone else is eating".........BUGGER OFF!
-Chantel Rutledge LeVardi
My son is 10 years old and I could so relate to this story. It has made me see his eating habits in a different light, mainly that he doesn't CHOOSE to be so picky but that he can't help it. It's not his fault. He has added a few foods to his diet over the last few years and I hope he continues to do so at least a little bit. Partly for nutrition but also from a social point of view. He is often the only kid at a birthday party who eats NOTHING. This article has made me realize that we need to back off him a little bit and maybe just let him be who he is.
-Lisa Norton Holton
"Odd how you're receiving all this media attention for something "not-so-good".
This is complete BS. It's just pandering to picky kids. Kids have been picky forever. The answer is to offer them whatever the family is eating and if they won't eat it, then they don't eat. They'll eat once they're hungry enough. Pathetic parenting to allow the kids to run the show.
OH MY GOD. Thank you so much for publishing this article! My son is 3 1/2 years old and he's a picky eater as well. We have struggled so much to try and get him to try new foods and this article has finally shed some light into why he is the way he is. THANK YOU. THANK YOU. THANK YOU! We actually just started him on feeding therapy today. What are the odds?
Thank you so much for this article. We need to get the word out so that people will understand that this is a real problem and not just people being picky. My 15 yr old son has food neophobia and desperately wants to eat hot dogs and hamburgers like everyone else. These stories sure do help him to feel like he is not alone.
-Cara Lovely Bond
I'd like to see awareness of the picky eating problem increased and more research on the subject. This has negatively affected my family for years in ways that most people "just don't get". At the
very least, it's awful to have to explain to a waitress on a family outing that your son will only have bread and milk - and the ridicule from family and coworkers is something I wish I didn't have
to anticipate and deal with. My son isn't spoiled, he has a rare disorder that we have yet to find any assistance from our physician or the reputable child psychologist we've worked with. We continue
to suffer and hope for a better outcome. It's good to know we're not alone.
Written after viewing the Good Morning America segment on October 26, 2012:
Joyce.... You are 100% correct! THANK YOU!! This is the message that Dr. Nancy Zucker (Duke University) is trying to convey not only to the general public, but peditricians everywhere as well. A young mother with a 6 year old suffering from the inability to eat most foods reached out to me recently. She is SOOOOO relieved to know it's not her fault. The stress on the child, wanting so much to 'fit in', combined with the guilt of the mother is a recipe for future emotional disaster. Now, armed with the knowledge this is "real", her understanding will help him lead a normal life! Marla McWilliams-Lopez :-)
(Monday, October 29 12 10:31 am EDT)
I'm a vegetarian who exercises and calorie restricts (at a healthy level for weight loss.) You'd be surprised at how many people foolishly judge my carefully researched lifestyle choice. Why should you eating what you prefer be judged, either? You're responsible and have had your health checked out. So long as you're happy and healthy, why should there be any stigma at all? Hang in there and best of luck, health and happiness to you and yours...
Marla's Response: Thanks for your kind words. We, that have this highly restricted diet, would "prefer" to eat 'normal' foods, it's an inability to eat these foods, which is why the words "picky eater" doesn't really describe us as it's not a choice. However, even if it was a choice, as you say, what business is it of anyone's what we eat?
It's so sad to see people who don't understand that different bodies have different capabilities, and different disorders. I personally can't understand how most people can't master, for instance, advanced mathematics, but I would never walk around bashing them in public - I have to understand that not everyone's brain works the same way. But I also have to hide my inability to swallow most foods from that same group of people, because most of them are able to eat most foods with ease, and for some reason can't make that leap to the thought that there are people who don't have that ability. I want to call it ignorance, and that is probably what it is.
Posted on yahoo by joliesf October 28, 2012
Whatever she eats or doesn't eat...she looks fabulous! I'm quite surprised and sorry GMA didn't speak to the health issues on this kind of eating. A balanced diet is drummend into our heads at every turn...it's obvious this person doesn't heed or need it! Does she supplement with vitamins and minerals or herbals? Why and how can she be so healthy?
Posted on yahoo by chrisb October 28, 2012